Broken Chains #5: My struggle with Isolation.

My struggle with Isolation.

I grew up in an amazing family with two loving parents, two biological siblings and at least two other members of our extended family at a given time. One would assume that I have always had people around. I am also a pastor’s kid which in my opinion comes with unsought attention. I had a considerably good number of friends both in school and church, but despite all those people around me, there were times I felt completely alone. Read More

Broken Chains #4: Seeking forgiveness

Seeking forgiveness.

Before I came to Christ, I was very selfish. I just wanted to be loved and because of this, I expected people to act exactly the way I wanted them to. As I looked to serve myself for many years, I hurt a lot of people. When I came to accept Christ as my Lord and Savior, I knew that I had sinned against many people. But I assumed that I had forgiven them and they also had forgiven me. I was stubborn and wanted to learn to forgive in my own ways, not the ways of God. Read More

Broken Chains #3: Washed Away

My baptism experience, the day my insecurities were washed away.

The day had come, the day where I as an adult said to myself “I am choosing to follow Jesus and only Him”. No more foot in and foot out. No more just a Christ follower by mouth. The day that I choose to lay it all down.

One by one I watched my fellow brethren in Christ step into the water and be made instantly clean. My heart heavy, my knees weak and my body shaking, I asked myself ‘Am I worthy?’ Read More

Broken Chains #2: Freedom from self-hate

Freedom from self-hate.

When I was in my late teens I really struggled with the concept of “self-love.” I actually hated myself. I internalised a lot of negative comments made about my physical appearance and personality growing up and accepted it to be true

I would beat myself up about the smallest of things and always criticize myself after having conversations with people. There was a period of time I would research self-love because I was desperately trying to find out how I could possibly achieve it. I’ve found that the only way is through a relationship with Jesus! Read More

Broken Chains #1: Bound by Image

Bound by Image

(Watch the spoken word piece “Bound” here)

Vanity of vanities, all is vanity. (Ecclesiastes 1:2)

(photos captured 05/2013-04/2017)

I have had natural hair since I was born. Yes. Completely natural; never permed, never texturized, never relaxed.

I hated it.

Not only was it brittle and hard to manage, but everyone around me, including my big sister, had silky sleek permed hair. I felt odd and misplaced. “Why can’t I just be like everyone else” I thought to myself constantly. This blanket of insecurity I was suffocating underneath drove me to cover my hair up.

I got my first weave at the age of 9.

From then on my mum did my hair for me, up until the age of 14 when I decided that I needed more elaborate and fashionable hairstyles to keep up with the latest trends. That summer, I taught myself how to do my own hair. I experimented with extensions and weaves and became skilled enough to replicate any hairstyle I desired. Read More